My Thanksgiving Letter to President Obama - #NoDAPL

In an effort to become more active in the democracy I've enjoyed all my American life, I am starting a weekly series of Letters to the President. Regardless of the topic, I wish to engage my lawmakers directly. Facebook posts are great for venting, but they don't get work done. Here's this weeks letter:

"Dear President Obama,

                As my husband and I wrap up our Thanksgiving weekend, we ponder over those things we often take for granted. Sure, we’re grateful for our high-speed internet connection and our subscription to Netflix. But all too often, we forget that there is so much more we have that others do not: some do not have heat in the winter, or even a roof over their heads. People without their health, their family, or their safety. Or worse, there are those who thought they were safe, protected by the promise of the ethical and humane treatment of their fellow man, but are instead cheated out of a good and healthy life by those who are more concerned with acquiring wealth. Is that a fair exchange?

                For as long as you’ve been in office, and before that, on the campaign trail, you’ve stated time and again that healthcare is a right, and I agree. But does not health care start with preventing harm? Preventative care through the Affordable Care Act is available at no cost, thanks to you. We are grateful for that. But medical care doesn’t always prevent disease; identifying ailments in a timely fashion is sometimes all we can hope for. No, preventative medical care, which you so passionately campaigned for, includes protecting the environment that provides for our sustenance. The air we breathe must be protected to prevent disease. The food we eat must be of sound quality to avoid illnesses. The water that sustains us must be kept clean, as some wrongs cannot be made right.

                Perhaps you know I am referring to the Dakota Access Pipeline. Perhaps the Dakota Access Pipeline isn’t the only instance where the integrity of our water has been violated. Perhaps the negligence in Flint, Michigan has given the American civilian population a very good reason to be grateful for something as simple as clean, accessible water. And we want to continue to be grateful for that modern luxury. A luxury that we, as Americans, are actively working to bring to developing countries (www.water.org). But how do we justify improving the lives of others in this manner when we actively allow for the contamination of our own water, here in the continental United States?

                In an effort to get out of our heads and back into the world, it occurs to us to simply do what is within our means. We can sign the petition, but will you listen? We can call and write, but will you heed us? We can donate money, but will it be enough? Not unless you act with us.

                The protesters, who have opposed the Dakota Access Pipeline for more than seven months, have done more than “what is within their means”, risking life and limb. Why? Because they know what the people of Flint, Michigan now know – it IS a matter of life and death. I ask you, as someone who has fought for the improvement of health for all, please take a moment to consider what is within your means. As you may or may not know, the Standing Rock Sioux Tribe has filed a lawsuit but the courts have not filed the paperwork yet, and are allowing construction to begin. As such, the protesters now face harsh weather conditions in addition to violent opposition from law enforcement. The Army Corps of Engineers, the same Army you command, has issued an eviction notice, supposedly to keep the protesters safe. The eviction notice, you can imagine, seems like a backhand to our native brothers and sisters, who have suffered great loss over the centuries already. But I believe you can do more than protect the protesters as they exercise their first amendment rights. I believe you can do the right and moral thing, and stop the construction for good.

I believe you can save lives, Mr. President, just as you’ve done with the Affordable Care Act. Stop the construction of the Dakota Access Pipeline. It may be the best decision you make yet.

Most sincerely,

A Concerned Citizen of this Great Nation"

Want to write the President? Go to https://www.whitehouse.gov/contact - it's easy! Want to get involved? Sign the petition! Call the White House! And donate if you can!

***PLEASE NOTE: The form on the WH.gov site only allows for 2500 characters, so write out the long form, like I did above, and then shorten it for online submission. You can always send the full version via snail mail, if you wish.

Here's the abbreviated version I sent online:

"Dear President Obama,

I wrote a longer letter you can read on blog here: http://embracethekayoss.blogspot.com/2016/11/my-thanksgiving-letter-to-president.html . But for now, here is my abbreviated version:

As my husband and I wrap up our Thanksgiving weekend, we ponder over those things we often take for granted. Our family? Our health? Our safety? In an effort to get out of our heads and back into the world, it occurs to us to simply do what is within our means. We can sign the petition, but will you listen? We can call and write, but will you heed us? We can donate money, but will it be enough? Not unless you act with us.

The protesters, who have opposed the Dakota Access Pipeline for more than seven months, have done more than “what is within their means”, risking life and limb. Why? Because they know what the people of Flint, Michigan now know – it IS a matter of life and death. I ask you, as someone who has fought for the improvement of health for all, please take a moment to consider what is within your means. As you may or may not know, the Standing Rock Sioux Tribe has filed a lawsuit but the courts have not filed the paperwork yet, and are allowing construction to begin. As such, the protesters now face harsh weather conditions in addition to violent opposition from law enforcement. The Army Corps of Engineers, the same Army you command, has issued an eviction notice, supposedly to keep the protesters safe. The eviction notice, you can imagine, seems like a backhand to our native brothers and sisters, who have suffered great loss over the centuries already. But I believe you can do more than protect the protesters as they exercise their first amendment rights. I believe you can do the right and moral thing, and stop the construction for good.

I believe you can save lives, Mr. President, just as you’ve done with the Affordable Care Act. Stop the construction of the Dakota Access Pipeline. It may be the best decision you make yet.

Most sincerely,
A Concerned Citizen of this Great Nation"

Professionalism 101: How Extracurricular Activities Taught Me About the Professional World

My first paying job, under the table of course, was when I was eleven. I started working for the same day care that took care of me over one summer. With my height (inching close to 5' 7"at the time; I was 5'9" by age fourteen) and stature, most younger children easily saw me as an authority figure. I would babysit occasionally after that. At fifteen, I had my first taxable paycheck, traveling almost an hour for less than six dollars an hour, and was invited back the next year as a supervisor for only seven dollars an hour. The summer after my high school graduation, I was the only paid intern at a small blackbox theater in downtown Washington D.C. and quickly picked up local, professional theater gigs. On several occasions I was chosen over older, but not necessarily more experienced technicians. And they called me.

At thirty-two years, I find myself grateful for my more than twenty years of work experience. Especially my time in theater. Just four years of a truly extraordinary high school theater experience taught me more about deadlines, professional relationships, and personal responsibility than papers or projects ever did. Such an application of education created a skill set I often see lacking in today's youth, which starts with a very tenuous concept: professionalism. 

The end cap to my theater education was my college course for Lighting Stagecraft, which the professor cleverly nicknamed "Professionalism 101". Even if theater is not your thing, I believe every young adult should learn and apply these principles before diving into the professional world. It is my intention that this series of blogs will help to clarify what it means to both act professional and be professional.

Be Prompt

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This lesson echoed loud and clear during my time at Regis University in Denver, striving for my B.F.A. in Screenwriting. I scheduled a meeting with a professor to solicit his advise on an outside project, but had to reschedule. The process of rescheduling was more grueling than one might expect. After all, shouldn't making up a test be a simple matter of walking in on another day when you feel up to it? Unfortunately, in the adult world, people's time is precious, and you must honor their commitment to dedicate any part of that to you. You cannot expect to get a job if you're late to an interview. No amount of explaining how traffic was atrocious or parking was limited will improve that first impression: 'You should know better'. And you should. Now, not everyone runs on deadlines, but better to be safe than sorry.

And this rule runs both ways. Don't, if you can help it, miss a deadline. There is a business term called a "hard stop". It means, no matter what, all efforts come to a halt at a certain time to ensure that everything that follows also stays on time. Here's a good example of the the term used in a sentence. In theater, there is always someone else who depends on your work to be done in order to do their job, so being late makes their job that much harder to do.

Be Prepared

The 5 P's was our theater mantra: Proper Preparation Prevents Poor Performance. This apparently was adapted from the British Army's 7 P's adage, "Proper Planning and Preparation Prevents Piss Poor Performance". This mantra helped us to understand the role of design before a production, including breaking down the script to figure out set, lighting, and sound design.

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This is a hard lesson because if all you ever know is working toward a grade, then you don't fully see the consequences of _not_ "making the grade". When other people rely on you to be prepared, it puts tangible pressure into the picture. Tangible pressure is not to be confused with implied pressure. In a group project, for example, there is an impression that if you don't hold up your end of your responsibilities, then other people's grades will suffer for it. However, what if they just do the work for you? What if you're being graded individually? Then that pressure is only self-created, and, thus, easily cast aside.

Tangible Pressure = The Potential for Other People's Failure Due to Your Failure

It's amazing how people will suddenly try harder when there is an imperative.

It's Ok to Ask Questions 

This is also a valuable lesson learned when working as a temp (temporary employee), since most temps do not receive training as part of their assignments. In theater, however, the greatest advantage in the planning stages is communicating between the departments. The lighting technicians would talk with the art department about costumes, makeup or sets to coordinate color and intensity. Without that communication, actors could look melancholy when they should look aglow with young love. Asking questions is an essential component of being part of an organization and an effective team member at that. It's also the first line of defense to Prevent Poor Performance. This is often where instructional education and applied education tend to clash. In a instructional education, you are expected to sit and listen to a lecture without questioning, or read the book and regurgitate the information without inquiring further. 

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This isn't always the case (some schools take a classical approach and actually teach their students to question), but often there is no room for deviation from what the book or professor tells you and what's on the test. But in the real world of supply and demand, customer service, and corporate hierarchy, the "answers" aren't spelled out in black and white. Sometimes you have to read between the lines to "get the job done". But reading between the lines can be tricky, and asking questions is the only way to clarify.
This includes asking for help. It is better to ask for help and get the work done, than to fail alone, never giving yourself a chance to succeed.

The Production Triangle

This lesson should come with a great big neon flashing light. I once explained this concept to a client, and he asked "where did you go to business school?". "I didn't. I learned that in high school theater", I replied. Yeah... learning business basics in high school extracurricular activities. And it has served me well through event planning, filmmaking, and even in my own personal time management. Ultimately, the production triangle boils down to limitations and compromises. Whatever you want to do can either be done cheap, fast, or well. Choose two of the three, and you'll get it done every time. But you'll never have all three.

Compromise is a part of life, and this is often they way professionals figure out what and how to compromise. Know it, love it, use it.

This is the best way to explain it. Simple, but brilliant.

Though, this is what the triangle looks like. Whatever allows you to visualize it.

Be Honest About What You Can and Cannot Handle 

People can always tell when you are less than forthright.
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Being honest with yourself is the first step to being honest with others. You must know and admit your own strengths and limitations. 

My freshman year of high school, I wanted so badly to be involved with theater, but I was taking all honors courses. I was already struggling academically, and could not see myself dedicating too much time to theater, unless I wanted to fail at both. So, I talked with the Theater Director, and she assigned me to the House Crew, which met a couple of times before the show, and only required attendance during performance days. 

Knowing and admitting this limitation saved us both the headache of me not performing my best, and her not receiving the best performance. On a similar note... 

Be Forthright

Plenty of people in the corporate world will contest this idea, arguing that volunteering information is foolish at best, and detrimental at worst. However, in my early years in professional theater, straight out of high school, I found people were more likely to trust me if I put all my cards out on the table. It saved us both time, and thus money, by not finding out once it was too late to remedy any complications. 

This is especially true since America has become a mostly service-oriented economy. Trust, which is necessary for any healthy relationship, is built only when everyone is on the same page. It's not enough to know your own strengths and weaknesses, but you also have to volunteer that information before it becomes a problem. Once others have evidence of your role in a situation, they can begin to give you more responsibility (which can mean better paying jobs). Now, that's not to say you shouldn't take legal precautions. For example, you don't want to volunteer your movie idea without having the recipient sign a non-discloser agreement. But, if you're on the same team, you've got to come clean. Ultimately, this rule is to ensure you are both consistent and ethical.

Always Take the High Road*This is the common connotation of "professionalism", and will be discussed further in another blog entry.

Stern is acceptable; rude is not. In theater, tensions run high, especially the week before production, which we endearingly term "Hell Week". People will snap, growl, and otherwise exchange unpleasantries, and this is mostly due to the extreme desire to do a good and noteworthy job. This kind of stress builds coping skills for future stressful situations. However, whether you are assuming the role of leader or subordinate or professional peer, it is unacceptable to: raise your voice, verbally threaten, make a scene in front of others, or otherwise let your emotions override your ability to make level-headed decisions while on the clock. Period. 
Luckily, we got a chance to get all of our novice, unprofessional tendencies out of the way (theoretically) before we left high school. Call it a trial run, which is precisely the kind of safe space school should be. Something has happened and you're not sure how to proceed? Ask a Question. Not sure you can creatively handle the conflict? Admit what you CAN and CANNOT handle, and then ASK FOR HELP!

Learning to be "professional" takes time, and I was lucky to have the opportunity to start practicing early on. You will make mistakes, but it is well worth the effort to attempt being professional at all times. Respect, courtesy, and efficiency will be your rewards.

What did YOU learn from your extracurricular activities? What were your first lessons in Professionalism? Leave a comment, and let me know!

Post Script: This BLOG is brought to you, in part, by a 21-year-old supervisor (and self-confessed "brat"), who thought she could crack the proverbial whip on me for picking up my client 5 minutes late (hey, I'm not perfect, but I make up for it by having the highest client request rate). Come to find out that she had not prepared the paperwork correctly, which delayed me, nor had she asked me if I needed any help, which delayed me further. Most importantly, she did not take the higher road and address this issue after the appointment, where she wouldn't inconvenience my client any further, nor did she take me aside to confront me individually, sparing myself and my co-workers the embarrassment of her tantrum.

To say the least, she just cost herself one of her most valuable employees (no, I'm not humble, but trust me, I am being entirely forthright).

This mentality has allowed young adults to think they know it all going into the professional world.